I’ d probably let her be on a date with her phone!”
Tarun:“ Pretentious girls... someone’ s who’ s trying too hard to seem cool, saying something just for the heck of it. And also, if a girl is too clingy— like she needs a guy for every little thing. I like independent girls...”
Does it deter men from dating a girl if she’ s had multiple sexual partners?
Bhanu:“ Nope! Maybe if she’ s still friendly with those guys, but not basis the sheer number of her sexual partners.”
Tarun:“ No, not really. But I feel it’ s better for the relationship if she tells me about it upfront. But I’ m totally okay if she’ s been with a couple of people.”
Ankit:“ I used to be like that a while ago, but not anymore. I guess, part of growing up is also accepting that if you can have multiple partners, so can a girl. And that’ s completely okay.”
Shaman:“ I feel if she’ s dated a guy, then it’ s okay. But if she’ s randomly hooked up with a lot of people and she’ s still friends with them, I wouldn’ t be comfortable with that.”
Tushar:“ I don’ t think these things matter anymore.”
Akshay:“ I agree. If you have a genuine connection, everything else is immaterial. Everyone is allowed to have a past and, I feel, our generation is progressive enough to not let these things get in the way of dating someone they really like.”
But what if her number is greater than yours...
Akshay:“ Good for her!” Tarun:“ It’ s just a number... if I trust her, nothing else matters.”
Tushar:“ If she’ s lied to me about it, then yes, definitely. But otherwise, it wouldn’ t matter to me.”
Tell us about a date that totally turned you off.
QMoMent of truth: what do Men really think of girls who’ re on dating sites / apps?
Tushar Jaitly, 26, Founder, TJ-Moto
“ WHy WOuLD I juDGE SOMEOnE FOR bEInG On An App OR A DATInG SITE, WHEn I’ M ALREADy On IT? IT’ S juST pLAIn HypOcRISy!”
Bhanu Samrat, 25, Entrepreneur
“ GuyS WHO’ RE On DATInG AppS hardly juDGE WOMEn. I’ D SAy THE MORE THE MERRIER... I WOuLD uRGE MORE WOMEn TO jOIn!”
Bhanu:“ It would have to be the one where the girl kept talking about her ex, who she dated for eight years... It was just plain painful!”
Shaman:“ This one time I went on a date with a fashion blogger, and she made me feel like I was in a social experiment. I felt extremely self conscious about myself as she kept analysing what I was wearing, etc.”
Ankit Sharma, 29, AVP, Leadership, Learning & Talent, Barclays
“ AbSOLuTELy nOT. I DOn’ T REALLy FInD IT An EFFEcTIVE WAy OF FInDInG‘ THE OnE’, buT HEy, WHATEVER FLOATS yOuR bOAT...”
Shaman Arora, 26, Businessman
“ I KnOW OF MEn WHO cAVE AnD DOn’ T GET InTO A SERIOuS RELATIOnSHIp WITH WOMEn WHO’ RE AcTIVE On DATInG AppS, buT I’ M TOTALLy nOT FROM THAT TRIbE.”
So a girl you’ re dating says‘ I love you’ within weeks. Is that a red flag?
Bhanu:“ Depends on who’ s more attractive in the relationship.”( Laughs)
Akshay:“ If she’ s someone I really like, and I think it can be something serious, I’ d be okay. I’ d probably say it back out of pressure.”
Ankit:“ I’ d say it back with equal enthusiasm.”( Laughs) n
Tarun Bassi, 30, Marketing Manager
“ I WOuLDn’ T juDGE A GIRL FOR bEInG On A DATInG App... buT I’ D DEFInITELy juDGE bASIS HER pIcTuRE AnD MAybE THE bIO.”
Akshay Johar, 26, DJ / Producer, MojoJojo
“ umm, nO. buT I HAVE A pRObLEM WITH WOMEn WHO IDEnTIFy THEMSELVES AS‘ SApIOSExuALS’. LIKE, WHy ARE yOu EVEn HERE, MAn?!”
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